My first blog post
just a quick welcome to the new blog
posted by Bernice @ OCA @ 10:17 AM
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Only Child Adult Blog
The OnlyChildAdult.com blog for the only child adult community
The OnlyChildAdult.com blog for the only child adult community
just a quick welcome to the new blog
posted by Bernice @ OCA @ 10:17 AM
5 Comments
5 Comments:
Hi Bernice, I found this site while combing through the many sites for only children. I was happy to find one that focused mainly on the only child adult. This has been such a large issue in my life! I hope the group continues and grows, because I, for one, really need a site like this to help me at times. I need encouragement, because this can be difficult as an adult when it seems like almost everyone else has family to turn to. I hope this site is legitimate and that there are others here who I can connect with!
Hi Maureen,
I am pleased you have found this and commented! If you have any ideas for the site let me know!If you want to share anything with me that woulld be fine I know how difficult it can be at times to be an only!
I am an only child and my father died a year ago and I still miss him deeply. As an only child surpriseinly my mother and I did not get along that well. Whe was an only child herself. Her and Dad got married when the war started and she was "married" 4 years without him, then when he came back they waited 3 more years to have me, as Mom says they were enjoying themselves as a couple before they wanted a child. I cam along and I don't think my mother was equipped to handle a baby. Apparently I had colic and cried a lot and Dad had more patience and walked the floor a lot with me (I was told by an aunt).I never really bonded with my Mom and in her last years took care of her but after she passed was not shaken up by loosing her. I asked Dad many times if he was sure I was an only child and he would laugh and say they got what they wanted the first time.
I say I am an orphan now as I don't have any borhters , sisters, aunts, or uncles, My dad had 5 sisters and 1 brother but they are all dead too. We lived next door to my mothers parents as they came down to Fla. to help mom with the "baby" me and decided to stay.
I always wanted siblings growing up and then when my folks got into their 80's I almost wished I had them again however all my friends say it ws so much easier for me to deal with decisions as I did not have to check with or please anyone but me and them.That part is probably true I had power of attorney and everything went smoothly.
How did it affect my parenting being an only? Well with the first one I did not have a clue what I was doing. (I had 3).i thought babies woke up in the middle of the night you gave them a bottle and they went back to sleep, so I got really disappointled and cranky not to get to sleep when I wanted. Maybe this was a selfish trait of an only child being first time Mom. I had no time for myself. Time for what I don't know just the baby ran my life instead of me being in control. I guess that is it not liking not having control.
When she was almost 3 we had another girl then 21 months later a boy. I guess I got use to it.
However now I am 58 and a grandma and I really don't want to babysit my grandkids that much. I love them to pieces but I feel like I did my dues and am enjoying crafts and home decorating and my life has gone on to other things then diaper changing and car pooling. I feel again I am being selfish for being self centered and maybe that comes from growing up as an only child.
any comments from others? Barb
I am not an only child but I am married to an only child. We have been married for 17 years with no children of our own. I am looking for answers as far as why he is so difficult and self centered. Sometimes it is wonderful and other times it is aggrivating and frustrating. The older I get and the longer we are married the situation gets worse.
I just want to understand him and stop the fighting.
I am married to a person with five siblings. I am also looking for answers as to why he is so difficult and self centered. Rude too, and he tends to blame other people all the time as if they are the one with a problem.
I just want to understand him and stop the fighting. It must be because of having siblings, right?
I am a 51 year old single male. I have really enjoyed being an only child. It is amazing to see all the qualities that we share. You must remember something I don't care how big of a family you come from you are always your best friend. I don't care about brothers,sisters,wives husband,mothers, or
fathers in real life you are your best friend. You just have to like/love your self.You can't love no one else if you don't love your self. I have friends who don't even speak to thier siblings boy that sounds like love. I can spend hours/days with just me. I read one blog where the lady said she was very outgoing. I can go somewhere and have a great time people love to be around me but I am so comfortable when I walk into my house.
and I am alone. I have been all over the world by myself because I know I can meet people.I do, I have, it's a blast. I have gone on vacation with ladies I have dated and it somewhat seems suffocating at times because there are different ways I would approach things by myself. God has given me a wonderful life. I come from a close family my father has been dead for 24yr My mother is 84 and has always been my responsibilty after my fathers death, more on that later.
I have a succesfull work life plenty of hobbies I so have an addictive personality so I have to always be carefull of what I let into my life but who knows that better than me. One thing stuck me and that was guilt when my dad was living I use to feel guilty about going fishing or hunting with out him. My mother and I were always close too we would alway do lunch and movies in the summertime when I was on holiday from school. As an adult I would go pick her up and do the same thing well she can't do all of that anymore so if I do that by myself I don't tell her cause I don't want to hurt her feelings. Some evenings if I don't feel like cooking I will go to dinner well I can go to dinner by myself it doesn't bother me well my friend at work can't for the life of her figure how I can sit in a restraunt by myself and eat a full course meal and not feel out of place. Remember you have to be able to stand yourself.
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